BREAKING UNGODLY SOUL TIES 

A soul tie is a strong spiritual , psychological  and emotional  connection  that you have with someone .Usually this happens after engaging in sexual intercourse but it can also develop as a result of shared experiences and  closely bonding  with friends  and family.

There are beneficial ,Godly or divine soul ties which exist such as the one in marriage where two people become one flesh according to Genesis 2:24 or in the case of Jonathan and David in 1Samuel 18:1 .Both of these are  examples of strong connections and laying down one’s life for the other. You can also have soul ties with your church which becomes the very thing that stops you from moving from church to church,soul ties with your family  and soul ties with good Godly friends. These soul ties help to strengthen marriages , deepen  friendships and foster spiritual growth  although , the One you should be really knitted to is Jesus.

Science has taught us that if two people have a sexual relationship, it’s as though each is having sex with every partner the other person has slept with. The same holds in the spiritual realm. When two people have sex, the two become one  ( 1 Corinthians 6:16) and that means the  demonic influences to which  each partner has opened himself or herself to are passed on as  sexually transmitted demons.That type of bondage then becomes  ungodly soul ties. 

One of the reasons why some people continue to struggle in relationships even though they are walking with God is because they have unsevered soul ties with men and women from their past that continues  to give the enemy a foothold.Since your soul is the bridge between your spirit and your body and this is where your mind , will and emotions live to enable you to think, choose and act, if you are tied to someone it affects how you think ,choose and act.Healthy soul ties will build you in Christ whereas unhealthy soul ties will suck the life out of you.

With this said,how  do you identify soul ties in your life ?

1. If you always feel persistent shame, unworthiness  and less than the person God created you to be.
2. If you can’t fully give yourself intimately in your present marriage. 
3. When you always go back to toxic relationships or friendships.
4. Failing to create healthy boundaries in a relationship .
5. Thinking obsessively about an ex/dreaming of them  (feeling like they are always with you).
6. Comparing your new relationship with the old one.
7. Defending why you are staying in a destructive or abusive relationship.
8. Inability to form healthy new relationships.
9. Seeking out the same kind of person in new relationships.

Now that you have identified the presence of a soul tie, the next step is breaking free from any unhealthy bonds that may be holding you back. Here  are some practical and spiritual steps to sever these ties and walk in true freedom.

1. Repentance – 1 John 1:9 says  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness  (NIV). Confess  the sins that led to the ungoldy soul ties. Be honest with God and tell Him everything. If you don’t know where to start, Psalms 51 is a good place to start. Repent and truly forsake these sins.
2. Renunciation- Break ungodly commitments and covenants-  including blood covenants, writing your names and putting them into  bottles or padlocking  them.Renounce any oaths or vows  you made  using statements like ,”I will never leave you,” “ I will never love again.” Ask the Holy Spirit to remind you all of covenants  and vows you made and break them by the blood of Jesus.
3. List all the names of the people you feel heavily, unhealthily  attached to and renounce and denounce all ungodly soul ties.
4. Forgiveness – Choose to forgive anyone that you might have been holding hostage in your heart. 
5. Ask God to restore your soul according to Psalms 23: 3  and help you walk in the paths of righteousness.

On the practical side, you end obsession by removing the triggers or anything that reminds you of this person.That means destroying any photos,giving away gifts,deleting their photos,jewelry. Also,say no to events and people that cause you to compromise or let your guard down through alcohol  and set  healthy boundaries and curfews for yourself.

Here is a prayer you can use to break ungodly soul ties :

Heavenly Father,

I come before You today, seeking Your forgiveness and healing, as You have promised in Your Word. I repent of all sin that has opened the door to ungodly soul ties, wrong relationships, and unhealthy attachments. Your Word says in 1 John 1:9, If  we confess our sins, You are  faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.I  ask You to cleanse me and purify me with the precious blood of Jesus.Lord, I renounce any vows, oaths, or blood covenants made knowingly or unknowingly, that have bound me to anything or anyone outside of Your will. As it is written in Jeremiah 31:31-34, I declare a new covenant of grace and freedom over my life. I break every ungodly soul tie that has caused emotional, spiritual, or psychological bondage. I declare, according to Isaiah 54:17, that no weapon formed against me shall prosper,and I am free from all bondage in the name of Jesus.

I break soul ties with [insert name].

I renounce soul ties with [insert name].

I declare these ties broken in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.

I forgive those who have hurt or betrayed me, as Your Word commands in Matthew 6:14-15 that if we  forgive other people when they sin against us ,You our heavenly Father will also forgive us. I release them into Your hands, trusting You to heal my  wounds and restore what has been lost. Remove all bitterness, anger, and resentment from my heart, as You instructed in Ephesians 4:31-32, to get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger…  to be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave us. Father, according to Psalm 23:3, I ask You to restore my soul for You said You restore my soul and lead me in paths of righteousness for Your Name’s sake. Heal the brokenness within me, renew my mind, revive my spirit, and help me walk in the fullness of Your love, grace, and freedom. Holy Spirit guide me into new, godly relationships that honor You and reflect Your truth.Thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness to heal, restore, and make all things new. As You say in Revelation 21:5, “Behold, I make all things new.” I trust in Your power to transform my life. In Jesus’ mighty name, I pray. 

Amen.

If after doing  all of the above, you still struggle with obsession and disconnecting with the people from your past, seek deliverance. Also know that sometimes the soul ties can be broken but demons  will keep on trying to bring the thoughts , memories or feelings of an encounter or relationship you used to have with somebody to try to get to you to sin again but you have to demolish these strongholds through prayer, fasting and reading the Word. 

It  is important to remember that breaking free is one thing, staying free is totally another.Continue to build yourself up with the word of God ,guard your heart  and remain in the presence of God.